How to Know a Man
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Written by: Daniel
It's possible you're here because you've
been seeing a guy lately that
you have started developing romantic feelings for and you wished there was a way you can get to know him better.
Or maybe there's a guy in the office you’ve had a crush on but felt stuck in approaching. Well, the most
effective way on how to know a man is by talking with them. However, the timing must be right and you
must be tactful in your approach. So here are some tips you can use on how to know a
Smiling and being friendly is
important here because it sets the tone for your relationship. If you’re always grumpy or not smiling it’s
going to be weird from his point of view when you start talking to him. Having a friendly smile will seem
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threatening and will lighten
the mood of everything. It subconsciously reads, “I’m not
going to bite” when you’re
around him. From his point of view you’re easy to approach and he’ll want to know you more because of your
great smile. When it comes to how to know a man, an ice breaking smile is the
Don’t just wait for him to
talk to you, approach him, it’ll tell him you’re confident about yourself which he’ll find
attractive. But before you just walk in there, you need to
come up with a plan. Get some background information on him through his Facebook page or through friends. After
which you can come up with topics you`re going to talk about when you talk with him. Eg. “So I hear you`re
interested in basketball”. You need to come up with follow up questions as well so the conversation doesn’t die
like, “what got you started liking basketball”?, and “where do you play usually”? Having a plan as to what
you’re going to talk about makes you less nervous because you have a rough idea of what you’re going to do
Awkward or Caring?
talking more with people. If you come off as a talkative person who’s friendly and approachable it not only
makes it easier for him to approach you, but is more inconspicuous when you start talking to him. What’s
obvious and nerve wrecking is talking to him when you usually don’t talk to other people. However if you
always ask all your co-workers how their day was, when you ask him you’ll come across as your usual caring
self. It won’t come off as awkward when you strike up a conversation with him because he'll know
that it's just who you are. You'll also have plenty of practice in the form of conversation skills
from other people, which will come in handy on how to know a man.
Find opportunities to
Involved with a
charity? Talk to him about it. It’s pretty common for people to ask acquaintances if they want to buy
their kid's girl guide cookies. Look up the football scores so that you can connect with his world, that
way when you're around the water cooler you can connect with him on some level. You don’t have to like
football or keep following it, what you’re trying to do is find ways to connect with his world. Try taking
lunch the same time he does or going to the same restaurant he does. Ask him if he has a favorite
restaurant he recommends, go there then that way you can talk about the food you tried. What beer does he
recommend? Most guys drink beer, and i'm sure they would love to talk about that.
Getting to know someone and
relationship building has become easier for those who know how to utilize technology.
Texting, tweeting, or Facebook can be a great way to know
him better. It’s casual in that it gives you both time to respond and gives you the chance to think up a
witty answer. Start building a messaging relationship by sending a casual message about your
lunch. You can send it to a group of friends to make it seem inconspicuous. After you’ve been texting
back and forth for a while, you’ll find your friendship growing to the point where it’s more comfortable to talk
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Things to talk
When it comes to how to know
a man, people say that to know someone better you can ask about their hobbies, likes and dislikes.
You can just ask what activities or sports that he likes most -- cooking, travelling, or participating in or
watching a particular sport. After learning what his favorite food is, you can then tell him about yours and
this could actually get the two of you talking for a long period of time. In the process of talking, more facts
that will make you know him better will start to emerge.
Aside asking about the
hobbies and interests of a man, you could also ask about his life ambitions. Some men like it when ladies ask
about their dreams and goals in life, and would gladly share them, especially when they are excited by the
prospect. However, if you should ask questions related to his dreams and aspirations in life, you also have to
try and listen to what he has to say patiently. It is also important to avoid getting critical of his
A key tips here when talking
about these subjects is in the way you talk to him. Don't just ask him question here like in an interview,
keep it flirty. You want to keep the conversation exciting, as if you were flirting with him, but not so
openly. Steer the conversation to more exciting subjects like relationships, people, things you find
When you are looking for an
opportunity to talk with him so as to know him better, you must make sure that he is in the mood to talk.
The reason for this being that there are likely to be some questions that you might ask him, which he would be
reluctant to give right answers to probably because he is not in the right mood at the point in time. Sharing
your views on a certain topic can get the ball rolling and he may find it easier to add his input
afterward. However, if you notice some level of reluctance on his part in answering certain
questions you ask him, don’t push it. It might be that he was not feeling too free to answer such questions
because they are rather too personal and will sure appreciate it if you didn`t continue pestering him with those
questions, at least for that moment.
It should also be said that
your tone should sound interesting and effort should be made to spice up the conversation with jokes. You should
ensure that you don’t make the conversation turn to a monologue since you can't get to know him better by
adopting such an approach. A little smile here and there will also work some magic.
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